Newly of a 10-year wedding, I was truly naive about
hookup culture
and gender as a whole. Appearing straight back, We see
plenty warning flags
during the guy I dated for 5 months after my separation. Here are the symptoms I missed that I was dating a closet sex addict.

1. 
   He wished to have intercourse continuously.
   
   We had been having sexual intercourse at the very least four times each day. Initially I didn’t understand it had been odd; I’d been married for a while before I dated him thus I don’t know what ended up being a “normal” amount of sex. As I was married, regular was once a month, so when I started online dating this guy, i simply thought he had been truly, really interested in myself. After all, I
   
   am
   
   pretty amazing.
2. 
   He had been painfully bashful.
   
   I know this won’t seem like it matches, but the guy came across all his girlfriends on the internet, therefore I assumed he would never ever had a one-night stand. I possibly could never ever picture him getting a woman in a bar. Turns out, he met everybody on Craigslist, Tinder, or any other hookup programs. Now I am not stating all shy dudes tend to be closet gender addicts, but we
   
   am
   
   stating that being timid does not rule it.
3. 
   He cherished women in all size and shapes.
   
   In an ideal world, all males would never worry about any female’s problems. Actually, we’ve all outdated males who had their own choices and dislikes. He previously none. At first I was thinking it actually was empowering; he appeared to
   accept myself for me personally
   . However highlight ladies he discovered attractive, and so they varied from rail-thin to obese, gothic to black colored locks, pale epidermis to dark skin. We never ever once felt terrible about any section of my body in which he never forced me to feel unappealing, but later on, I had to wonder: that’s truly keen on
   
   everyone
   
   ?
4. 
   He had some peculiar intimate activities within his past.
   
   Which are I to guage if the guy performed a few things that I would personallyn’t have? Didn’t we all have a past? To start with I found myself thrilled to own discovered someone so open. We purposefully didn’t respond when he explained towards time he met some meeting guys on craigslist is on the receiving conclusion of a glory hole. (it was not homosexual, the guy revealed, since the guy could not notice guy. He saw straight porn although the man performed oral on him from behind a piece of cardboard.) Next there was enough time he took part in a threesome, therefore the time a woman involved his work so he could fist their. I need to confess We enjoyed experiencing their stories, but I happened to be starting to get worried that situations he previously done in their last will be circumstances he would want again in the future.
5. 
   He viewed porno… a whole lot.
   
   I remember all of our basic conversation about porno. He had been very amazed to listen to that I didn’t have trouble with it. Just how could I dictate which he was not allowed to enjoy porn? That would suggest
   
   I
   
   wasn’t allowed to view it, and
   We loved porn
   . Unless it stopped him from attempting to be personal with me, i did not see a challenge. It never ever became problematic; he usually nonetheless wanted sex. It was not until after we separated that he admitted it had been curbing him acquiring their work accomplished during the day.
6. 
   The guy possessed his own business.
   
   In the event that you constantly should see porno, masturbate, swipe on Tinder, or organize craigslist hookups, just what better day job to own than to being yours manager? He could leave many times through the day without any individual knowing—including myself.
7. 
   He would never ever let me know their “number.”
   
   I did not ask downright but we joked about this. He explained he would never ever tell me his wide variety. I included upwards his past girlfriends and thought that quantity. The guy chuckled and informed me, “Probably more.” I thought he’d outdated more women than I’d heard of. I never guessed he had connected with the amount of random men and women.
8. 
   He had been really, good at intercourse.
   
   I imagined it actually was because we had been so in melody emotionally. The guy paid attention to my personal cues while having sex like not any other guy ever had. Because looks like, he would just had a lot of rehearse. Despite the fact that I couldn’t stick to him when I found out he had been cheating (with so many other folks!), we’ll never forget him due to the fact finest sex we ever endured.